Just making sure you were reading the WORDS here and not just looking at all these gorgeous photos of our kids !!
Are you ready for something completely different?
My next guest blogger is Lisa Morguess.
Lisa and I have a few things in common. We both have large families- she's due in a few months with her seventh child, I'm due this fall with my eleventh. We're both 44 years old, we are both passionate about blogging, and we are both
And that may be where our similarities end...because while I am staunchly pro-life, Lisa is just as staunchly pro-choice. I'm a born again Christian, and Lisa is an atheist.
I asked Lisa to contribute to this series, because on this crucial point we agree: Down syndrome is a life worth living.
I obviously don't share all of Lisa's views, but I think her message will resonate with so many - and if it helps saves lives, then I am a happy woman.
It's about wanting a baby
guest post by Lisa Morguess
It’s not about God, or what the Bible says . . . because not all of us believe in God or are swayed by the Bible.
It’s not about whether abortion is right or wrong . . . because, like it or not, abortion is legal, and legal or not, it’s here to stay.
It’s really not even about whether prenatal testing for genetic conditions is right or wrong . . . because once the technology is there, it can’t be undone.
It serves no constructive purpose to debate the morality of abortion or the question of when life begins.
These are issues that have been debated for years and years and will never be settled to everyone’s satisfaction.
Judging someone for the difficult choices they are faced with won’t change minds. It only leads to resentment and further polarization on the issues that really do matter. Do we, as parents of children with Down syndrome, really want other people to keep their babies instead of terminating their pregnancies out of guilt? Or do we want to help them WANT to keep their babies?
If there is any question about morality and ethics in this issue of prenatal testing, it’s a question that needs to be laid squarely at the feet of the companies that utilize sleazy marketing campaigns, that influence doctors and insurance companies, and at the feet of medical professionals who attempt to influence their patients’ decisions by painting a biased, unfair picture of Down syndrome.
What really matters – what is really at the heart of all of the brouhaha surrounding the new prenatal tests – is this question:
Is life with Down syndrome a life worth living?
Yes, yes it is.
Women who undergo prenatal screenings do it as part of seeking out good prenatal care. This means that they WANT their babies, they WANT to be pregnant, and they WANT to be mothers.
For many women, receiving a prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome changes all that. Images float through their minds of the stereotypes and misconceptions they’ve developed without even realizing they had developed them. They might be told frightening things by their doctor, things like “A child with Down syndrome will never talk, may never walk or be toilet trained, will never have friends, will be sickly, and will be a drain on your family. He or she will always be completely dependent.” It’s not uncommon for women in this situation to be told by their doctor, “The quickest and easiest way to fix this is to make it go away. We can schedule your termination for the end of the week.”
And suddenly, this woman who WANTED this baby, is asked to make a choice – only she very likely feels like she doesn’t really have much of a choice.
This – THIS – is what needs to change. Because these things aren’t true. While these predictions about people with Down syndrome may have been true several decades ago, the picture of Down syndrome has radically changed – and that’s what we want people to know.
Children with Down syndrome do learn to talk and communicate. They do learn to walk. And run, and jump, and swim, and ride bikes. They do learn to use the bathroom. They go to school and learn to read and do math and make friends. They grow up and get jobs and fall in love. They have opinions and feelings and beliefs and convictions. They are valued by the people who know them and cherished by their families.
This is what Down syndrome really looks like.
A life with Down syndrome is a life worth living.