Sunday, October 9, 2011

31 for 21/Day 9: Meet Kelly Clinger

Yesterday I received an email from a friend of mine (thank you, Nicki!) directing me to an article online...I read the article and was so moved that I left a comment, linking back to Lily's blog. The author came here to read about Lily just a little bit later and left the sweetest comment... so I contacted her to ask if I could reprint the article here for Lily's readers. I hope you enjoy this powerful story as much as I did. And thank you, Kelly, for the permission to post, and for making such an awesome stand for our kids!


Note: Kelly Clinger, a performer and former backup singer for the pop star Britney Spears, had two abortions when she was in her early twenties. She is now a pro-life speaker for Silent No More Awareness and blogs about her pro-life activities here.

I've been putting off getting my hair done for a while because it’s hard for me to rationalize spending the money AND spending 2 hours being still. (I know, first world problem!) ☺ But, alas, my roots were quite blond so I scheduled an appointment for today. I’ve been battling the blues for a few days and would probably have stayed in bed had it not been for the appointment.

I walked in and took a seat while I waited for my stylist to come get me. I can’t even make up what happened next.

On the other side of the wall, I heard this conversation:

Girl #1: “Well, I’ve always been pro-choice, especially if there’s something wrong.”

((I look around for candid camera.))

Girl#2: “Yeah I’ve been sick for a month. I just don’t think I can do this if there’s something wrong with the baby.”

((After I get over my shock, I begin to pray. I thought I was here to get my hair colored, but apparently You have other plans, Jesus.))

Girl #1: “I think you did the right thing by making the appointment. It’s harder to talk yourself out of it once you have a time to get it done. Will your husband drive you?”


Girl #2: “No, he doesn’t know I’ve been thinking about abortion. I think I will just tell him I had a miscarriage.”

((Here we go!))

As I round the corner with my “Pray to end abortion” t-shirt and my LIFE band, I felt the Holy Spirit say, “meekness and kindness, Kelly”, and I thanked Him for the reminder.

Me: “I couldn’t help but overhear what you guys were talking about and I’ve never felt stronger in my life that I was put in this room by God.”

((Their mouths drop open, and they just stare at me. I take a deep breath.))

Me: “I don’t know if you know God, but He knows your baby. He already has his or her life planned out. He gave you that baby and believed that life would be safe in your womb. PLEASE don’t do what I did many years ago. Please don’t kill your baby.”

((30 seconds of silence ensued that felt like an hour…and then they both start to cry.))

Girl #2: “But they think my baby has Down Syndrome. I don’t know how to care for a retarded child.”

Me: “Your child isn’t retarded. Your child may have special needs that will be a challenge. But the joy that child will bring you will overshadow EVERYTHING else.”

((I had the Loux’s and Mattie’s homecoming fresh in my mind. So I took out my phone and started to show her pictures of him.))

Me: “Look at that baby’s smile. He has so much love. If you don’t think you can provide that, please don’t take your baby’s life away. Let someone else love him/her. I would love your baby like my own.”

((She begins to weep and takes my hand.))

Girl #2: “He’s mine. I know he’s mine. I can’t do it. God will help me.”

((I cried and prayed with her.))

I sat for the 2 hours with a grateful heart and didn’t mind it much.

Before Girl #2 left the salon, she came over to thank me and said she was a walk-in. She doesn’t even get her hair cut there.

Honestly, I was terrified to stand up and say something. My heart was almost beating out of my chest, but I did it anyway….and I think me and Jesus (and Mattie) may have saved a baby today.

And THAT’S a good day. #OverwhelmedWithHisKindness


It's very late, so I am going to quickly post three adorable photos of Lily and give you a little tidbit about something good coming up tomorrow....

You really don't want to miss it....

Hint: it's a video....and if you were one of the kajillion people who got my text this morning about something Lily did for the first time today....

...well you just REALLY need to come back here tomorrow to see it!!

One more thing-

You knew I couldn't forget about him, didn't you??? Little Artem's grant fund is now at $8,555 ! Can you believe it? We're just about $1,500 away from our goal of raising his grant fund to $10,000 by the end of October. I do believe we can do it! All we're asking is five dollars.


What is five bucks? It's a Starbucks latte. A burger and fries. A magazine. A tip at a restaurant. 

A little boy's life.

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heather said...

Thank you for sharing that post! It was the perfect thing to read tonight. And thank you Kelly for having the strength and courage to stand up for what you believe!

Stephanie said...

WOW!!! That's all I can say, the rest is in the form of tears!

sweetmystery6 said...

what an awesome post! i love reading your blog - lily is absolutely adorable. thanks for posting, can't wait to see that video!

D said...

Thank you Kelly for being there to let god do his beautiful work!

cara said...

What an encouraging post Patti!! That is exactly what God calls us to live- to give up our lives here for His purpose and plan. Kelly gave up her fear and helped save a baby that God had ordained for life. So beautiful!!

The most adorable pictures of Lily!!!!!!!!!!! They always are.

Mrs. K said...

Cannot wait for the video. Did not like the text picture of my Lily Anne crying. I pray the fever is gone and she is her silly self once again. Hugs and prayers, Grammi

Leah said...

thank you so much Kelly for sharing!

lovemy3 said...

Thank you for sharing that story!

Shauna said...

I literally got chills! Thanks to both of you for sharing!!

Kristin said...

Regarding my lightening striking twice post... I read it first on facebook, and have since seen it on other friend's blogs. The Risner-George family live in Michigan. My friend, Heather (blog posted on facebook this evening that they were trying to set up a fund to help them. She gave the grandfather's address to send cards... C/O Bernard Risner 2625 Burden Road, Stockbridge, MI 49285 - tragic.

JB said...

Is no one else appalled at the arrogance of this woman?! I had an abortion. I have never regretted it. I didn't tell the father...MY father...because he would have beaten me for getting pregnant in the first place.I was sixteen. The baby had a rare genetic disorder...she would have died slowly...painfully. It was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. I know that's a cliche but it's true. I had to weigh the emotional pain of an abortion against the emotional pain of giving birth, a young teenager, to a baby who would be in AGONY all her short life...bringing her home to my father's house...with all the abuse there. If this woman had come up to me like she did with the poor girl at the hair salon I would have been speechless. Shocked silent. How dare she. It is not her business, not her decision. Noone makes this decision lightly. You don't know what someone's life is like...what their circumstances are...what is in their heart. Several years after my abortion my cousin had a baby with this condition and it destroyed her. You have no idea. Watching your child go blind...deaf...stop breathing. She never recovered. Multiple suicide attempts now and a pill problem. Because she DIDN'T have an abortion. Every decision has a cost. That's the reality. If I had to do it again I would in a heartbeat.

JB said...

PS...Using my friend's Gmail account to make this comment since I don't have one, don't know why that's her username lol.

Patti said...

Anonymous- Are you saying Kelly is not entitled to regret her decision because you do not yours?

That she is arrogant because she tried to save a baby's life??

Noone makes this decision lightly? I beg to differ. People are making that decision lightly EVERY DAY.

If your story is true, I am deeply sorry for the cruelty you endured.
I hope you have pursued legal recourse now that you are of age, so that your father does not inflict his cruelty on others.
(And please forgive me for questioning its authenticity. I have had a number of trolls here, and I am a little suspicious of my comment section. You knew your baby was a girl? And that she had a rare genetic disorder? So you must have been 20 weeks along. And your father didn't know you were pregnant?)

Compounding evil- rape and incest- with murder - is not the answer. At least in my opinion. .

But you are certainly entitled to your opinion here, as is Kelly.