Friday, March 25, 2011

Our Eyes Opened

Dear Friends,

I realize I already posted today...and I also realize that I already posted about the Davis family earlier this week, and their son Kirill.

I've been praying all week for this little guy, for a miracle to take place in his adoption process.

If you didn't read my original plea- the Davis family needs your prayers. Kirill's adoption was fully funded, and the Davis family has traveled twice to his region.

Last week, they went before the judge in Kirill's are Tesney's (his mama's) words:

When the ruling was read, the judge said, “Your application to adopt is rejected.” The basis given was that Kirill was “not socially adaptable” due to his “medical condition” and he was better off in an institution than in a home with a family. As the judge read her ruling, she stated several times that we were a good family, that we met all the criteria to adopt a child, but that she would not approve our adoption because Kirill has Down Syndrome. She told us that we could adopt another child, because legally our application had no problems according to Russian adoption law. She said she would approve our adoption for a “typical” child, but not this child. Why? The only reason? Because he has Down Syndrome. Even though we were approved by our home study and by the USCIS to adopt a child with special needs. It makes no sense whatsoever. Denying a child a family because he has Down Syndrome is a violation of human rights at its most basic level!

It was like a terrible dream. We were so unprepared for this outcome. As we left the courthouse in a mental fog, the doctors and social workers that had testified came to us and said, “If you appeal, we will fight for you. Appeal. Fight this decision.” Of course we were going to
appeal…I could no more walk away from our biological son, Clayton at this point. Kirill is just as much my son.

I cannot imagine walking away from Lily, leaving her in another country, knowing that- barring a miracle- I would never see her again.

I cannot imagine Lily being placed in a mental institution, left to live out the remainder of her life without the love and care of a family.

I cannot imagine Lily being tied to a crib for hours on end, because she was walking, and there was no other way to keep her confined.

I cannot imagine Lily lying for hours on end in her own excrement, and being subjected to the whims of schizophrenic adults and hardened "caregivers".

If you don't believe that's what happens to children in mental institutions in Eastern European nations, I challenge you to do the research. Go read The Boy From Baby House Ten. Or read here or here or here.

A very good friend of mine who was a teacher a few years ago, told me about a young girl in her classroom. She had been adopted from one of these orphanages, and she had vivid memories of her time spent there. The staff forced these young children to watch pornography- to desensitize them to perversion, so that they would not resist sexual predators. If the children turned their faces aside, or closed their eyes, they were slapped and forced to keep watching.

Maybe that sounds sensational to you. Maybe it's hard to believe there is such ugliness in the world.

Honestly, I would rather not read or hear about such atrocities. Honestly, I would rather spend my days playing with my kids at the park or posting sweet pictures of Lily and her new accomplishments every day. Honestly, it's easier for me to turn a blind eye and close my mind to such evil.

But honestly- I cannot.

"Once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows what we know, and holds us responsible to act." Prov. 24:12

It's more than just little Kirill that's at stake here.

I close with Tesney's plea:

So here we are, asking God to move the mountain that is standing between Kirill and us as we appeal to the Supreme Court in Moscow. There are also three other families who are in various stages of adopting children with Down Syndrome from Kirill’s region; one of the families has a court hearing set for next week.

We are hoping that someone will hear our outcry and help us bring our son and these other waiting children home. His adoption will set the precedent for many other children in his region. There are 98 children in his orphanage with special needs alone. It is one of many orphanages in this region that houses children with special needs. This is about more than just one child, the lives of hundreds of children with special need are at stake. Please help us.

Please pray for this judge, and this appeal. Please post about this in every forum you can think of.

And please visit the Davis family's blog and let them know you're praying for them.


Lindsey said...

You don't know me, but a friend has been posting updates. Through tears and chills I will continue to pray from the very depths of my being. In that little boy and you is a gift, so apparent in that hug; I wish there was more I could do. Praying.

Psalm 27:14
Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD

sunnylattegma said...

That video breaks my heart. What a precious child he is, what a loving mom... Lifting them before God's throne and praying the hand of God intervenes for this family, and the other families to follow.

Sara said...

I've been in tears so much the last couple of days reading this story. Every time I find something else I learn something new about it and it BREAKS. MY. HEART. I'm so sad for this precious baby and just pray that God will change this judge's heart. He's the only one that can.
I love that everyone is saying to show love--that in itself is God's desire--we need to show love to this judge and others involved and believe that God will change her heart and He will have been glorified by everyone's actions.....whatever the reason, He will be glorified.

TheFoleyFive said...

oh gosh. After reading your opening paragraph then watching that mommy kiss her little boy and hug him and see his smiles..then to imagine the following paragraph as his end. that made me cry so much. That would be such a painfully unjust, cruel, evil end to a beautiful hopeful dream. we will pray with you.

Heidi Ehle said...

This brings me to tears. Like you, I can not imagine my beautiful Liddy being discarded and mistreated like this poor baby has been. Thank God there are wonderful people in this world who choose to be parents to babies that others turn away from. My daughter is a gift from God and she is made exactly the way that He wanted her to be, as were all these kids. Keep doing what you're doing Patti. You move me with every word you write (I'm always crying when I finish reading your posts) and I will continue to pray as well as pass the word.....

Anonymous said...

Patty - thank you for sharing Kirill's story. I've been and will continue to pray for his family, and for continued protection for sweet Kirill. May our Lord open the eyes of the judge, letting her see the beauty of every person, disability or not. My heart is breaking, I can barely comprehend this...please if you learn of anything specific that we can do let me know!

Anonymous said...

I have been praying for this family!! I have been bringing this before God and begging Him for a miracle for this precious family and their son. Something you just wrote stood out to me just now- the judge refused because he simply has down syndrome. They would allow them to adopt a typical child. Oh, my heart aches. I guess because I have Benji and you have Lily and so many others have children with these extra special chromosomes, it just breaks me. I know how special these children are, and the evil that goes on in our world is horrific! I would also like to have some defense mechanism in me that could turn a blind eye or pretend I did not know. And honestly, I think many people have this and use it. But God has called His people to reach out to the fatherless and the needy and to stand up and DO something. This family is fighting and not giving up and determined when many people would fall. They are being led by His strength, and we must come along side them and PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. I was reading my son's book the other day about Florence Young, a couragious missionary. In a chapter, it talks about being in this boat in a dangerous situation; the current was carrying it to a jagged coral reef. The missionaries began to pray, and as they prayed, they felt a gentle puff of wind. But it was not enough. They did not give up, but continued to pray and more puff of winds arose until a steady gentle breeze was blowing, the book says. I do not know why, but I thought about that now. We must all come together and continue on praying for this family and this child. They need us to keep praying and not giving up. God will hear the cry of His people. Thank you for posting about this today Patti. Love, Cara

Unknown said...

i cannot bear that! x

Unknown said...

i have reposted it on my blog, facebooked it and twittered. Oh may this be changed its too cruel if it isnt! x

Mrs. K said...

My teeth ache from the tightening of my jaw, my heart aches, my spirit aches, my arms ache to hold each and everyone of them. These precious children, the pictures, the stories, the descriptions. I feel so ashamed, I have so much freedom, so much food, so much to entertain me, ever so many things I take for granted.

The only joy I feel for these children is that I know they will go directly to heaven when God calls them "home" and be with our Precious Lord and His Mother. Then they will truly have a Mother and Father to hold them.

Kellan's momma said...

I am sooo sad by this. I was away for the weekend and sat down this evening to read updates on the blogs I follow, only to see the common that makes me sad and angry. My prayers are going out like crazy, and I'll watch for updates on the next family to go before this judge.

LL said...

I checked with people I know and while it is possible to appeal the judge's decision in Russia, an appeal is unlikely to prevail. -- details in e-mail.