I've been asked this question several times in the past few weeks, so I thought I would address it here: How is it emotionally, when Hayden is doing things way faster and easier than Lily did things as a baby?
Admittedly, it is a strange feeling. Because not only is Hayden doing things more easily and quickly than Lily- he is doing them fairly early as far as his age goes. He was crawling/scooting and sitting up at five and a half months…he's now just six months old and he is crawling on all fours everywhere and pushing himself into a sitting position.
And a few days ago he started talking…
Did you understand what he just said ? I think it was something along the lines of, "I prefer to be held all the time, Mom…why do you insist on putting me on the floor to play??"
SO any hoot… it is a mix of feelings I'm experiencing these days in regards to Hayden and his milestones. It's exciting and amazing to see him take off so quickly. And yet it's also hard, because in all likelihood he is my last baby. (I know, I know- I said that with Lily. But I'm 45 now, so in reality my baby bearing days are probably over. Sob.) That being said, I just love this age- where every day he is learning something new. It's just fun to watch, and the fun is multiplied when we have a dozen or so cheerleaders in the house in the form of siblings…they all get so excited very time he does something new, and I usually have five different kids running into my room at different times to announce his latest success - "MOM !! HAYDEN IS TALKING !!! DID YOU HEAR HIM ??!"
And on top of all of those feelings is a realization that Lily missed some of those milestones…she NEVER crawled. She went from sitting up to butt-scooting to walking.
But guess what?
She crawled last week. No kidding. I honestly thought she was physically incapable of doing a four-point crawl, because even when she was three she could not mimic us on all fours.
But last week when we were all standing around Hayden, watching him crawl like a pro and cheering him on, she immediately dropped to her knees and began crawling circles around him -- grinning her head off. Somebody wanted to make sure we didn't forget that she is every bit as cool as her brother.
So really, my answer to that question is - I feel fine with it all. Hayden is Hayden and Lily is Lily and they both have their strengths. Hayden is nailing milestones early, and Lily is taking her time and letting us enjoy each one - like watching a flower open up in slow motion - and it's all good.
…out of the park.