Here it is...
Leave a caption in the comment section to be entered to win...winner gets their child and/or blog featured on A Perfect Lily.
Here was a winner from last week who was able to send me a photo a little later than the others. That's okay, because I think this little lovely deserves a spotlight all by herself....
...this is Nora. Isn't she adorable ?? I met her mama, Kelly, on Instagram. Some day we ARE going to get our girls together :)
Next order of business, Baby Number Eleven. I've had a request to display my baby bump here, so I pieced together a little collage of the growing Ricelet for your viewing pleasure. On one condition : no fat jokes. I'm fully aware that I'm expanding in all areas, and anyone who tells me I'm "all baby" is a great liar and also a wonderful friend. (hint hint).
Behold, the bump.
And finally, a request for help on two issues.
The first is potty training.
I've done this nine times successfully, and some kids took longer than others...One of mine, (who incidentally also delivered himself when he was born...just popped out under the covers with no help from me) also potty trained himself. Just took off his diaper when he was 22 months old, got himself up on the toilet, and has been peeing and pooping like a champ every since. Others had to be bribed, coerced, etc. to get the process down by age three.
The one lesson I learned over the course of 24 years of potty training is this: don't do it until they're ready. I don't care what they do in China, or how many books tell you it can be done in two days, if your child ain't ready, they ain't ready. You can talk to your doctor about this if you don't believe me. I talked to mine about one of my children, because they had a bed-wetting problem for years. I mean years.
Here is a piece of what I'm talking about...
A hormone called vasopressin, which is produced by the pituitary gland, reduces urine production by the kidneys. An increased amount of this hormone is normally secreted during the night, cutting the rate of urine production in half.
So in some kids, this gland decides it doesn't want to mature right away, like with other kids. It takes it's sweet time releasing that magical hormone, and no amount of limiting drinks at bedtime or bribing a child to stay dry so they can get stickers on a chart is going to speed things up if this is the problem.
Soooo...I am asking mamas of children with Down syndrome to tell me their thoughts on potty training. Specifically the ones who have older children...when did you do it? How successful were you? And most importantly - am I wasting my time trying this with Lily at age three?
Lately Lily has been showing extreme interest in the potty process. She takes her diaper off regularly, she puts on her siblings' underwear (as demonstrated above), she wants me to put her on the potty and pretend to wipe and flush, etc. And she yells POOOOOOOP when she is about to...do so. The other day she was turning red and screaming that awesome word at the top of her lungs, so I rushed her over to the toilet. It took five minutes of hugging me, while she groaned, sweat, yelled OWWWIE POOOOPOOO (sorry TMI), but eventually the cow pie sized bomb was dropped, and a potty party was thrown in Lily's honor. She promptly ran down the hall to tell her brothers, and led them back to the golden throne, where she proudly pointed to its contents and clapped her hands in glee.
Today she's been in chonies all day, and aside from soaking through them at nap time (she fell asleep before I could switch to a diaper) she has stayed dry.
So Ds mamas ... your advice? I am not, NOT, NOT a fan of being mommy-trained. I refuse to run my child to the potty every twenty minutes for the next 6 months, or stop the car on road trips every half an hour to tell my child to go. That is not potty training, in my humble opinion, that is mommy training. When my other nine were ready to be potty trained it took about a week of on and off accidents, but THEY told ME when they had to go by the end of the week. And that is potty trained. Your child is aware that they have to go potty, they are aware they went potty, and they are able to tell you they have to go.
Since Lily is still just learning to talk, is this an effort in futility ?? She can sign potty, and she tells me ALL the time when she has pooped- comes up to me and signs "change me".
And really, with Down syndrome, I don't know how much she understands. I don't know if she is even able to make the connection that she is peeing, you know?
So maybe trial and error is (unfortunately) the only way to find this out with her?
I would love to hear from you about your experience with potty training your child with special needs. I don't want to frustrate Lily, and I don't want to set my expectations too high, but I also don't want to underestimate her.
One more area of help needed....we're taking our family to Disneyland in two weeks. Seven of us have birthdays next month, so in lieu of gifts, we're going to the happiest place on earth. (Thank you, Sammy, for earning a huge bonus in the month of January by working your butt off so that we can do this. You're my hero.)
Since this trip was planned last minute, I am frantically scouring Craigslist and Ebay for Disney princess costumes for Lily...she is a size 18 month - 24 month. I'm having a hard time finding costumes that small...if any of my readers have one you would like to SELL me (not looking for gifts!!!) I would more than happy to buy your used costume and pay for shipping as well.
Those are the ones I'm looking for, but if you had Snow White or Mary Poppins or Sleeping Beauty, those would be great as well.
Okay, lots I covered here...don't forget the caption contest, and if you have any potty training advice related to Down syndrome, please leave a comment or email me.
Peace out !!